I'm writing this on the 9th February, which means that Valentine's Day is only a few days away. Even though Valentine's Day is not a huge deal in Finland, we also celebrate it in some way. Actually, we send cards also to friends, not only to girl- or boyfriends or husbands and wives here, since the day is called Ystävänpäivä (Friend's Day). Therefore, I suppose the main idea for this day in our country is to remember to tell all the people you love that you love them and care about them.
The stereotypical Finn is a silent, introverted and reserved person who finds it difficult to talk about feelings. An old anecdote or a joke tells about an old married couple where the wife complains to her husband that he never tells her that he loves her. He looks at her, surprised, and says: "I already told you I love you forty years ago. I promise I will let you know if things change." Although modern Finns are probably a lot more social and outgoing than the husband in the anecdore, Valentine's Day is something that Finns haven't exactly welcomed with open arms. It's often said that all that romantic fuss just doesn't suit us; we like to show our love and affection with actions or small things rather than with flowers or gifts.
Maybe so, but I find it hard to believe that any woman would mind a little pampering. There really is no harm in making someone feel good and happy, and the gesture doesn't always have to be anything grand. A foot massage, a good film, a delicious dinner... I can't think of anyone who wouldn't like to be thought of sometimes. But, having said that, let me be clear that I also don't mind surprises of a bit more grandiose nature...So if my husband decided to pamper me with diamonds instead of coffee and a kiss on Valentine's Day, I definitely would not mind...
